Capture Your Grief - Day 12

Monday, October 21, 2013
Day 12 - Article #captureyourgrief
I'm still playing catch up...
Capture Your Grief Day 12: Article | The M House
12. Article: Have you read an article about grief that you would love to share with everyone? Maybe it is something from Still Standing Magazine or a blog post from your favorite blogger or writer. Please feel welcome to share who wrote the article and how the article resonated with you and also the direct link to the article if it is online. ~CarlyMarie
I could fill up a lot of space here. I've read books, articles, online magazines, blogs...anything to help me understand or at least deal with the emotional roller coaster that is grief.

However, the one I chose was recently written by Lea Grover at Becoming Super Mommy. She wrote it for The Huffington Post on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. It's called To an Invisible Mom. The last few paragraphs really tugged at my heart strings:

...My heart breaks for you, the mother who has experienced the worst of all motherhood has to offer. And it breaks for you for having missed the most joyful. You have lost your child, as fully and truly as the parent of any lost child. And so many people neglect you, ignore your experience. Tell you that you aren't a "real" mom.

But you are. I know it. And more importantly, you do. You know you became a mother once, and there is no going back. No un-becoming. No erasing the changes in your heart and soul. 

You're doing a good job, mama. Every day, you do more than the rest of us can comprehend -- you keep going. You keep loving. You keep giving. You are a good mom.

Wow, right?

To Lea, thank you for recognizing us, for making us feel like we are and always will be part of the club. Sometimes that's all we need.


  1. Yes, wow! So true and beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this!