No words

Friday, January 06, 2012
Waiting, waiting, waiting. Today, my heart is aching to receive that call. My husband keeps telling me it will happen at just the right time. Why can't the right time be right now? LOL Patience is a virtue, right?

This past week has been emotional at times. When I read about the news anchor saying such horrible things about potential Republican nominee, Rick Santorum's stillborn baby, I took it as a personal attack on all bereaved parents. In other words, I took it very personally. I don't know their situation. For all we know, they chose to take their child from the hospital to the funeral home and needed to stop at their house for something. Grief doesn't know time. I'll never forget my dad asking me if he could take Josey from the hospital to the funeral home. I told him he didn't have to do that, but he wanted to. He said it was the only thing he could do for her as her grandfather.

Maybe it was just supposed to be a quick stop that turned into a couple hours. Who knows? One thing I do know is that I sure wouldn't judge them for it, regardless of the reason. In fact, Josey stayed right next to me all night. It was the only time I would get to be her Mom with the two of us in the same room. It was important. Further more, my entire family got to see her and hold her as well. 

Even worse than the news story are the comments attached to them. I can't believe the horrible things that people have said and written. The saying is true - ignorance is bliss. These people have no idea and part of me is thankful they haven't experienced it, but it wouldn't hurt to have a little empathy once in awhile. It also drives me crazy that people are making this about politics. Really? How in the world does politics play into the loss of a child? Oh, those crazy Republicans wanting to spend time with their dead baby, they say....well guess what? I'm a Democrat, and a liberal one at that. So there. Grief doesn't discriminate. Just plain ridiculous.

Anyway, thus is life and we must keep on moving, right? 


  1. I too, took offense to what Mr.Colmes said about Rick Santorum and his famly's decisions after the death of Gabriel. Whose business is it anyways to judge a family on how they cope with grief? I was appalled. Same thing about the much flack about the photos was given to the family.
    Once again..people judging without understanding the situation, and showing very little compassion and tolerance. Mourning your own, deceased child, in a way you deem appropriate is certainly not anyone else's business but your own.

    See, I'm still all fired up!

    I know it doesnt help, but I think about you almost every day (even though we haven't met) and I want you to get that call too.

  2. I'm so glad I stumbled upon your blog. From the few posts I read, we seem to share a lot of opinions. I suffered from hot and heavy preeclampsia as well. And now we're also in the waiting period of open, domestic adoption. So, nice to meet you. I look forward to reading more about your journey.

  3. That was a very sad moment and people chose to politize it. Very unfortunates how closed minded some of us can be. I was very sad with the media and the comments of some people. I am sure they overcame it and have moved on too.