Different can be good

Wednesday, November 23, 2011
I've recently come to a realization. What works for my husband and me must not work for everyone. Where did this thought come from? Well, from something silly. Last week, I purchased my Christmas gift from my husband. Yep, I bought it. He is the world's worst shopper. He tells me to find what I want, give it to him and then he wraps it and puts it under the tree. This may bother some people, but not me. It works just fine. 

My new Coach purse and wallet arrived yesterday just in time to go under the tree. I walked in and sat down in the floor in front of him, holding my big box.

DH: "What's in the box?"
Me: "Oh, it's my gift from you for Christmas."
DH: "Awesome. What did I get you?"
Me: "Let's open it and see."

He thought he did a great job with my gift this year. LOL 

We're also very independent. We love spending time together and doing things together, but we also enjoy our alone time. We've never had the kind of relationship where one of us says the other can't do something. For example:

Me: "Honey, I'm going to Florida with the girls for a week. I already bought my plane ticket."
DH: "That's great! You'll have a blast!"


DH: "I'm going to XYZ concert with John Doe. We're going to camp out in the bus."
Me: "Thank God I don't have to go. Have fun and don't get arrested."

I know several couples that don't have a relationship like this. It makes me sad, not to mention I just don't understand it, but I guess they have their own quirks that work for them. 

So, today I am thankful for an understanding hubby. :)


  1. It sounds like you have a GREAT relationship! I will be the first to admit ours is not the greatest, on it's best day. But we try, and we're still here.
    To have that kind of trust and understanding is VERY special.

  2. I agree!!! Definitely sounds like a great relationship!!! Do you think your hubby could possibly talk to my hubby?????

    BTW - what an awesome Christmas present he got you!!!!

  3. what a blessing! kudos on his choice of gift! :) he rocks!

    i don't have that kind of relationship, it makes me sad too.

  4. Hi from ICLW!

    I love your Christmas shopping for yourself! Glad you and your hubby have a healthy, strong relationship! Given the stress you are under, you certainly need to rely on that!

  5. Love the Christmas present idea...hmm maybe we will do that this year.

    Happy Thanksgiving! Happy ICLW!

    ICLW #16

  6. That sounds like a great relationship!!

    DH and I go a lot together but we are also very understanding about having "me" time!!

    Enjoy the Coach wallet and purse!!

    Happy ICLW

  7. Hi there, here from ICLW!
    I think you guys have a really cool kind of relationship - my hubby and I are similar. Except for the part that he his a good shopper :-)
    Keeping my fingers crossed for you that your wait will be over soon!