Why Didn't He Just Make One?

Tuesday, October 26, 2010
While trying to get my daily comment quota in for ICLW, I ran across a trailer to a new film starring Nicole Kidman. Jen, over at Attempting to Love Without Her,  had linked to a new film called Rabbit Hole. It comes out in December. After a little googling, a quick summary of the film from imdb states:

Becca and Howie Corbett are a happily married couple whose perfect world is forever changed when their young son, Danny, is killed by a car. Becca, an executive-turned-stay-at-home mother, tries to redefine her existence in a surreal landscape of well-meaning family and friends. Painful, poignant, and often funny, Becca's experiences lead her to find solace in a mysterious relationship with a troubled young comic-book artist, Jason - the teenage driver of the car that killed Danny. Becca's fixation with Jason pulls her away from memories of Danny, while Howie immerses himself in the past, seeking refuge in outsiders who offer him something Becca is unable to give. The Corbetts, both adrift, make surprising and dangerous choices as they choose a path that will determine their fate. 

Obviously, my story is quite different, but the pain of losing your child and the grief is the same. Watching the two minute clip, I felt like I was reliving part of the last soon to be 7 months. The clip begins with a group of bereaved parents talking about their losses. A couple explains how God just needed another angel. (Do you know how many times I have been told the same thing?) Kidman's character, obviously frustrated, looks at the woman and says, "Why didn't He just make another angel? He is God after all."

WOW. Powerful. Been there. Still there at times. You wanna know what I feel? What the BLM community lives with on a daily basis? Take a look at the clip. I can't wait to see it. I hope the film in its entirety is real and truly tackles the grief and the healing process that we go through.



  1. I started crying just watching that clip....Nicole Kidman crying in the car, standing in front of the washing machine and not moving, asking if it ever gets better and being told it gets bearable at some point. All things I have done.

    I just know I will cry my way through the movie.

  2. Thanks very much for your comment on my blog the other day. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope, as Dianne Wiest says, it does become bearable. I have to admit that our loss at 13weeks has sort of flared up again so I guess it's more like a roller coaster than a gradual decline. Anyhow, wishing you all the best of luck with your adoption!

  3. i am sorry for the loss of your sweet baby Josey.

  4. Thank you for sharing this. It looks like a truly amazing film and I look forward to seeing it.

    Thank you for your kind comments on my blog.

  5. I cried through that clip, and I'm not a BLM. Looks like a great movie and I'll need a box of kleenex. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Here from ICLW, I have read some of your story and think that you are very brave and strong. Happy ICLW!

  7. seriously!!!! me too!!!! sorry, people i know you mean well, but God DID NOT NEED ANOTHER ANGEL! ugh! the things people say! :) i know they are only trying to help but.... it just doesn't. if that thought helps someone, great! i'm so glad they were able to find what brings them peace.... but, actually, it's not scripturaly sound either.....

    anyhow, sending you hugs and prayers.... praying everyday for the precious one He has chosen for you to be safe in your arms soon. remembering josey always too:)

  8. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for the loss of your sweet baby.

    I saw this film when it premiered in Toronto and I thought it's such a beautifully made movie. The script and performances are absolutely topnotch!

    Here's another film clip you might be interested in, with Nicole and Dianne (Wiest).

    Wishing you and your family the best.