Venting

Friday, September 10, 2010
Three posts in one day. That's a new record for me.

Anyone ever listened to Earl Pitts America on the radio? He always says, "You know what makes me sick..."

Well, you know what makes me sick? People completely dismissing the possibility of preeclampsia. Someone made the comment when my sister was in the hospital last night that, "Oh, she'll be fine." They completely dismissed our worries and acted like it was no big deal. Well, how do you know? Have you had preeclampsia? Have you lost a loved one to preeclampsia? NO.

So, let me say this. Don't tell me not to be worried. I almost died and I did lose my baby. Granted, my situation is different, but it's happened to others. It's NOT to be taken lightly. Don't you dare tell someone who has experienced loss, whether it be themselves, their daughters, granddaughters, sisters, etc. that everything is fine and pretend it's no big deal. It is a big deal. Show a little compassion.

Thankfully, she is fine. However, her bp is still a little high. There's not one person in our family that will rest easy until momma and baby are home safe. Grrrrr.....

Ok, that's my last post for the day. lol



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3 comments

  1. People have no clue! The old "it will be fine" just kills me, how do they know? They don't! Easy for them to say with their easy, happy go lucky pregnancies...they don't know how scary it is to be sitting in a hospital bed helpless to what may or may not happen to you or your baby while time seems to drag on at a ridiculously slow pace. It is the worst fear, miserable. I am sorry to hear about your sister. Thinking of your family. Hugs!

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  2. Ugh. I don't blame you! I liked how someone told me, "pre-eclampsia is a disease of first pregnancies, I had it with my first [at like full term] and not at all with my second. So don't worry about it!" (I had HELLP at 23 wks, a little different!)

    I think some of the times that people make the worst comments is when they are *trying* to be helpful. (To us it comes off as dismissive, but to them they think they are being reassuring.) I try to keep in mind that they are trying to help even if it doesn't. But vents help too!

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  3. Unless you've been there, I don't think others can understand. Especially if they haven't lost anyone to preeclampsia.

    I hope your sister does well, she's in my thoughts.

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