Inching Closer

Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Next week will be 6 months since we lost Josey. Honestly, the past 6 months seem like a blur. There have been far too many life changes for us in 2010. Can we slow this down a bit? We've lost our daughter and a best friend, gotten a new nephew and decided to adopt. And of course, let's not forget I was pretty close to kicking the bucket myself. Lots of bad, but definitely some good mixed in there. THANK GOD. Lessons learned. Choices made. New friends. None of it easy. My doc asked me on a scale from 1 to 10, where I was emotionally. I said 6. Not too bad at 6 months, right? I'll never be a 10. I'm not sure that's possible, but then is anyone ever a 10? My goal is to find myself at a good solid 8.

Six months also has another meaning. We can now start our adoption journey. Most agencies ask that you wait at least 6 months after a loss, which I think is smart. I've definitely needed the past 6 months to grieve and start to heal. So, what are our next steps?

First, we are planning on a photo shoot next month with a good friend of ours from Indy. Should we go through an agency, we will have to create a family profile book. Since we haven't had real pictures taken since our wedding, we thought this would be something fun to do.

Next, we plan on starting our home study. November will probably be spent contacting several agencies we have been researching and making a final decision. Hopefully by December we can apply and get things rolling. More than likely we will only be applying to a local agency at first. Should we sell our property, then we will be able to go ahead with our plans to also sign with a national agency, but until then it's kind of off the table.

Of course, it's possible some of this could change, but for now this is the plan. Here's to hoping the next 6 months are much better than the last!


  1. You two will do great!! Just try to relax. I know easier said than done. Things will get better. Time, time, time.

    I'm here any time you two need me.

    Love ya!

  2. Lots to look forward to! You guys may want to begin the home study process as this can take 2-3 months to complete before you can sign with an agency. The home study can be completed by an agency social worker or private social worker, also you typically don't have to sign with an agency to have their SW'er complete the home study. Hope this helps:)

  3. It's weird when you think of all the time that goes by so quickly. I too can't believe it's been almost 5 months since Evelyn passed away.

    I hope the adoption process goes smoothly!!